I love him. Is there hope for us?

TLC ilovehimistherehopBloglinked

Hi Maryjane!I’m currently in a long distance relationship with a guy I’ve known half my life. He and I reconnected six months ago and immediately hit it off.However, he is currently in the final stages of a long, contested divorce, plus a young child I’ve never met. I simply adore this man; he has all the wonderful qualities I’ve been looking for in someone and vice versa but it has been gut-wrenching to see him process the pain of the divorce alone from so far away, not being able to do … [Read more...]

Fighting for His Love?! Why Brooks Isn’t Desiree Hartsock’s One

By Maryjane Kapteyn I am a huge Desiree Hartsock Bachelorette Fan. So much so that I actually took the time to watch this season’s bachelorette because she’s such a sweet, genuine, big-hearted, classy, earthy, strong and beautiful woman. I love Desiree and like you, I have been rooting for her happy true love ending. After Monday’s heart wrenching part-one season finale, I searched a few recap articles for Desiree’s response and I bumped into an article advising Desiree to fight for … [Read more...]

The Non-Committal Man

heyyou

Desperate, Insecure and Uncertain... or Just with the Wrong Man?  Memorize and imbed this next understanding– it’s my juicy, I know it from my own PAST shi*ty love experiences and my clients concur. It’s going to save you a lot of wasted time and stop you from rehashing that crazy stupid “what’s wrong with me?! And I’m not good enough stuff. Yuck! So, here it is... drum roll please... “You are either insecure or the man your with is making you FEEL insecure.” If you’re … [Read more...]

Nice Gal & The Bad Boy: Why You Get Hooked Part Two

goodgalbadboy2

Part Two Have you ever wasted your TIME and big heart on an unavailable man who prefers to keep things “casual” rather than create a real, lasting and loving partnership with you? The psychological appeal to the bad boy is that you never know if he likes you or if he’ll stick around. What you experience as excitement and the thrill of infatuation or romance, I call, anxiety, uncertainty and being on edge. Never knowing where you stand triggers a primal reaction to please him, give to … [Read more...]

Nice Gal & The Bad Boy: Are You Choosing What You Want or What You Need? Part One

leaninginshoulder

  Have you ever wasted your TIME and big heart on an unavailable man who prefers to keep things “casual” rather than create a real, lasting and loving partnership with you? Well it sucks! As a nice gal, you get so attached, you love big and it feels so hard to let go.  The key is to AVOID loving a man who cannot love you back and cannot give you the kind of relationship you truly deserve and desire. There are clear signs that signal the unavailable man and ways to not confuse him … [Read more...]