3 Things You Must Have to Get The Man & The Money


There are two kinds of people in this world those who have it all and those who get whatever is left over. Me? I was unsure of myself, never going for the kind of guy I always wanted, until suddenly with age and more emotional wear and tear those men we no longer interested in me or available. There are two kinds of dater's in this world, the confidence, love-savvy gal who knows her worth and the overlooked or undervalued gal who feels used up. I have a beautiful, powerful and spiritual friend … [Read more...]

I love him. Is there hope for us?

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Hi Maryjane!I’m currently in a long distance relationship with a guy I’ve known half my life. He and I reconnected six months ago and immediately hit it off.However, he is currently in the final stages of a long, contested divorce, plus a young child I’ve never met. I simply adore this man; he has all the wonderful qualities I’ve been looking for in someone and vice versa but it has been gut-wrenching to see him process the pain of the divorce alone from so far away, not being able to do … [Read more...]

Are You Insecure, Or Is A Player, Non-Committal Man Driving You To Unworthiness?

Insecure or dating Mr Wrong?

By Maryjane Kapteyn Needy. Clingy. Desperate. Insecure. YUCK!  The dreaded words you never want to hear from a man... let alone admit you sometimes feel. So, the big question is.... Are you driving a man away with your insecure ways, OR is the relationship driving you into insecurity. Is it YOU or is it him? It’s YOU...if Your man is consistently attentive and affectionate but no amount of reassurance ever makes you feel SURE or SAFE more than temporarily. You carry fears of … [Read more...]

Calm is the New Happy: Dating Mistakes to Avoid in Your 20’s, 30’s & 40’s


Yesterday, while enjoying a cool mango smoothie I bumped into an article in September addition of Health Magazine “ Why Calm is the New Happy”. I just about fell off my chair for the intuitive hit of confirmation it reflected in my own experience. Maybe it can support you in the type of happiness you most desire and how to date in a way that supports you to fulfill your relationship dream. Years before, I met my amazing man, I intended a clear set of signs that would let me know with … [Read more...]

Q&A- Should I Wait or Should I Go?


Q&A - Should I Wait or Should I Go? Hi Maryjane I need your advice. I don’t know if I'm doing the right thing or not. My ex and I broke up towards the end of March. He was caught cheating by my friends. We broke up and didn’t talk for 2 months. We started talking again end of May about trying to patch things up and maybe getting back together. He said he's not ready right now cause he needs to work on some personal issues i.e going back to school, family dynamics etc. These issues … [Read more...]

7 Ways to Avoid Being Clingy

By Maryjane Kapteyn Okay, you’re dating a new guy you really like and everything is going great until WHAM! You see the telltale sign – he pulls away, gets busy, snappy, distant or preoccupied. For example, he hasn’t called in days, cute or romantic text messages have slowed or stopped, he’s late for your date or on a date he acts disinterested, preoccupied or dismissive. Now, you’re triggered. Your mind begins to race, your face gets hot and palms begin to sweat; you begin to feel … [Read more...]

The Non-Committal Man


Desperate, Insecure and Uncertain... or Just with the Wrong Man?  Memorize and imbed this next understanding– it’s my juicy, I know it from my own PAST shi*ty love experiences and my clients concur. It’s going to save you a lot of wasted time and stop you from rehashing that crazy stupid “what’s wrong with me?! And I’m not good enough stuff. Yuck! So, here it is... drum roll please... “You are either insecure or the man your with is making you FEEL insecure.” If you’re … [Read more...]

Nice Gal & The Bad Boy: Why You Get Hooked Part Two


Part Two Have you ever wasted your TIME and big heart on an unavailable man who prefers to keep things “casual” rather than create a real, lasting and loving partnership with you? The psychological appeal to the bad boy is that you never know if he likes you or if he’ll stick around. What you experience as excitement and the thrill of infatuation or romance, I call, anxiety, uncertainty and being on edge. Never knowing where you stand triggers a primal reaction to please him, give to … [Read more...]

Nice Gal & The Bad Boy: Are You Choosing What You Want or What You Need? Part One


  Have you ever wasted your TIME and big heart on an unavailable man who prefers to keep things “casual” rather than create a real, lasting and loving partnership with you? Well it sucks! As a nice gal, you get so attached, you love big and it feels so hard to let go.  The key is to AVOID loving a man who cannot love you back and cannot give you the kind of relationship you truly deserve and desire. There are clear signs that signal the unavailable man and ways to not confuse him … [Read more...]

Q&A: How to Get Your EX back


Hi! How do I get back with my ex when he says he wants space? I have already cried a million tears, begged him to just talk to me, sent him a million texts & probably everything else u said I should not do! So what now? Do I really even have a chance of getting him back at this point or should I give up? – Denise   Hello Denise, First of all thank you for reaching out and having the courage to admit your mistakes and ask for support. What should you do? Nothing. I mean nothing in … [Read more...]