Oops, I Did It Again (Nice Gal Mistake)

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(this is personal)Oops, I did it again. Despite my undeniable spiritual connection to my partner, I unconsciously chose a man who wanted me to take care of him and fix his problems. I walked into a bit of a blended family, post-divorce mess. Yikes. Which means… part of me was a MESS as well. RELATIONSHIPS ARE A MIRROR. YOU ATTRACT WHAT YOU ARE, NOT WHAT YOU WANT.There’s no blame here, I take complete responsibility for attracting from my nice gal pattern. Plus, admitting all the ways, I … [Read more...]

Are You Insecure, Or Is A Player, Non-Committal Man Driving You To Unworthiness?

Insecure or dating Mr Wrong?

By Maryjane Kapteyn Needy. Clingy. Desperate. Insecure. YUCK!  The dreaded words you never want to hear from a man... let alone admit you sometimes feel. So, the big question is.... Are you driving a man away with your insecure ways, OR is the relationship driving you into insecurity. Is it YOU or is it him? It’s YOU...if Your man is consistently attentive and affectionate but no amount of reassurance ever makes you feel SURE or SAFE more than temporarily. You carry fears of … [Read more...]

Goddess or Doormat?

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Pablo Picasso said, "There are only two types of women - goddesses and doormats." Which are you? Do you give more than you get? Do you sacrifice and accommodate to please because you fear losing your man’s love? Do you get super excited and subtly or overtly design your life around your man- becoming too available? Do you compromise your values to keep his love or put your dreams aside? Do you put his needs before your own and believe that by fulfilling him – he’ll be … [Read more...]

Q&A- Should I Wait or Should I Go?

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Q&A - Should I Wait or Should I Go? Hi Maryjane I need your advice. I don’t know if I'm doing the right thing or not. My ex and I broke up towards the end of March. He was caught cheating by my friends. We broke up and didn’t talk for 2 months. We started talking again end of May about trying to patch things up and maybe getting back together. He said he's not ready right now cause he needs to work on some personal issues i.e going back to school, family dynamics etc. These issues … [Read more...]

7 Ways to Avoid Being Clingy

By Maryjane Kapteyn Okay, you’re dating a new guy you really like and everything is going great until WHAM! You see the telltale sign – he pulls away, gets busy, snappy, distant or preoccupied. For example, he hasn’t called in days, cute or romantic text messages have slowed or stopped, he’s late for your date or on a date he acts disinterested, preoccupied or dismissive. Now, you’re triggered. Your mind begins to race, your face gets hot and palms begin to sweat; you begin to feel … [Read more...]

Nice Gal & The Bad Boy: Why You Get Hooked Part Two

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Part Two Have you ever wasted your TIME and big heart on an unavailable man who prefers to keep things “casual” rather than create a real, lasting and loving partnership with you? The psychological appeal to the bad boy is that you never know if he likes you or if he’ll stick around. What you experience as excitement and the thrill of infatuation or romance, I call, anxiety, uncertainty and being on edge. Never knowing where you stand triggers a primal reaction to please him, give to … [Read more...]

Q&A: How to Get Your EX back

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Hi! How do I get back with my ex when he says he wants space? I have already cried a million tears, begged him to just talk to me, sent him a million texts & probably everything else u said I should not do! So what now? Do I really even have a chance of getting him back at this point or should I give up? – Denise   Hello Denise, First of all thank you for reaching out and having the courage to admit your mistakes and ask for support. What should you do? Nothing. I mean nothing in … [Read more...]