You’re Worth Loving!


By Maryjane KapteynMy message is strong and persistent: ‘You’re Worth Loving'.Life radically and beautifully changes when you know your worth, without it the COST is too great.If I had felt WORTHY walking into my adulthood, all the success, happiness and love I desired would not have eluded me. I would not have endured so much disappointment and pain. I would not have lost my money, my time, my well being, my health, my happiness and my self-esteem hoping a man would love me.I would not have … [Read more...]

Oops, I Did It Again (Nice Gal Mistake)


(this is personal)Oops, I did it again. Despite my undeniable spiritual connection to my partner, I unconsciously chose a man who wanted me to take care of him and fix his problems. I walked into a bit of a blended family, post-divorce mess. Yikes. Which means… part of me was a MESS as well. RELATIONSHIPS ARE A MIRROR. YOU ATTRACT WHAT YOU ARE, NOT WHAT YOU WANT.There’s no blame here, I take complete responsibility for attracting from my nice gal pattern. Plus, admitting all the ways, I … [Read more...]

Q&A Dropped Like A Bad Habit.

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Hi Maryjane,I'm a lost soul & stranger to most and even myself. I was in a committed, engaged relationship for five years that went into a toxic state of constant arguments; trust issues, miscommunication, and dependency. We loved hard & fought hard. I fixated on past issues that never let us move forward. He encouraged me to work on myself, and so I moved out of town hoping distance would help. Instead, I made work a priority and didn't treat him with dignity or respect. I yelled & … [Read more...]

Nice Gal Emotional Styles

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Have you ever wondered why smart, capable and amazing women engage in self-defeating behaviors that undermined their love success? Why we play nice and polite, giving in to his wishes and wants while staying silent about our needs.  Why we settle for attraction and attention from Mr. Wrong when we’re really craving real genuine love and acceptance. Why we feel afraid he’ll cheat or leave, needing constant validation and reassurance, even when there are no signs of betrayal and he’s … [Read more...]

Q&A Why Do Men Cheat?

Q&A: Why Do Men Cheat? Dear Maryjane, Why have I always attracted Narcissist’s? Every single man I've dated has cheated or consistently flirted and ogled over other women. My husband flirts shamelessly and it embarrasses and hurts me. I also suspect he may have taken this farther and cheated as well. Why can't I be enough for a man? Thanks MaryJane Dear Shelly, Thank you for your question! First of all, you’re not alone- so many beautiful and deserving women have been horribly … [Read more...]

Why Is He Acting Hot & Cold?

Why is he acting hot and cold?

Dear Maryjane, I’m dating a guy who is hot and cold. When we’re together it’s great but after he disappears for weeks at a time. I’m so confused by his ability to ignore me?! When I texted him saying, “ I can’t tell you what to do and if you don’t want to be with me I can’t change that”, he reappears.  He’s still in love with his ex and has many complications in his life but they’re all things I have solutions for. I can’t stand being away from him for weeks at a time … [Read more...]

Is He My Guy? 5 Misleading Messages Men Send

Is he my guy- misleading message men send

Q&A – Is He My Guy? 5 Misleading Messages Men Send Dear Maryjane, I’m dating this guy; at least I think I am. He calls everyday, we hang out together alone and sometimes in a group 1-2x times a week. I am so happy with him and I can tell he has a good time. He makes me laugh and everything feels easy. After a few weeks we became intimate and I just assumed he was my boyfriend. I’ve fallen for this guy, but every so often, he makes little comments about whether I’m dating yet or how … [Read more...]

Q&A: Why Men Disappear

Hey Maryjane, I'm reaching out to you because there's a guy who was in my life that is constantly on my mind. We were seeing each other for an entire month and every time it was so much fun. We were always texting each other. He made me laugh and we shared many things in common. I've helped him out also. I'm extremely attracted to him and felt an amazing connection, which breaks me up inside because he is no longer there. It’s been two weeks since we’ve spoken. I called him from my home … [Read more...]