The Hook that Causes Nice Gals to Choose Unavailable Men

Man and woman in sexual clothes

           Have you ever wondered why you attract emotionally unavailable, flawed, needy, insecure or broken men?Being nice is the source of your attraction. The reason you behave too nice isn’t your fault. In fact, it likely feels natural to be nice, a part of your identity and personality. Same holds true for the kind of men you feel attracted to – you can’t help it- right?What if I said you could, over time, re-wire your … [Read more...]

Why Is He Acting Hot & Cold?

Why is he acting hot and cold?

Dear Maryjane, I’m dating a guy who is hot and cold. When we’re together it’s great but after he disappears for weeks at a time. I’m so confused by his ability to ignore me?! When I texted him saying, “ I can’t tell you what to do and if you don’t want to be with me I can’t change that”, he reappears.  He’s still in love with his ex and has many complications in his life but they’re all things I have solutions for. I can’t stand being away from him for weeks at a time … [Read more...]

Unlucky in Love? Why You Should Keep Trying


I don’t believe luck has anything to do with finding love. Are there a few people who easily find love, with all the fixing’s? Yes, but you and I aren’t one of those people. We’re the one’s who feel unlucky in love, left out and frustrated. It seems so EASY for others and so damn hard for us. We painfully watch everyone else get fall in love and get married, wondering... ‘When will it be my turn?’ ‘Am I so unlovable?’ ‘What’s wrong with me?’ ‘Why am I still … [Read more...]

Why You’re Still The Single ‘Nice Gal’


Get ready for my sweet, but tough love coach advice because in this blog I am going to dish it to you straight, in the hopes to acknowledge... ...Why finding love after 35 is so hard ...Why you need to stop nice gal behaviors that are sabotaging your chances at love ...And inspire you to push you past your excuses and into a commitment to find love in 2014. Whether you’re single and unhappy, or coupled and unhappy or waiting for a man to step up in his commitment to you, I’m going to … [Read more...]

Goddess or Doormat?


Pablo Picasso said, "There are only two types of women - goddesses and doormats." Which are you? Do you give more than you get? Do you sacrifice and accommodate to please because you fear losing your man’s love? Do you get super excited and subtly or overtly design your life around your man- becoming too available? Do you compromise your values to keep his love or put your dreams aside? Do you put his needs before your own and believe that by fulfilling him – he’ll be … [Read more...]