You’re Worth Loving!


By Maryjane KapteynMy message is strong and persistent: ‘You’re Worth Loving'.Life radically and beautifully changes when you know your worth, without it the COST is too great.If I had felt WORTHY walking into my adulthood, all the success, happiness and love I desired would not have eluded me. I would not have endured so much disappointment and pain. I would not have lost my money, my time, my well being, my health, my happiness and my self-esteem hoping a man would love me.I would not have … [Read more...]

The Hook that Causes Nice Gals to Choose Unavailable Men

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           Have you ever wondered why you attract emotionally unavailable, flawed, needy, insecure or broken men?Being nice is the source of your attraction. The reason you behave too nice isn’t your fault. In fact, it likely feels natural to be nice, a part of your identity and personality. Same holds true for the kind of men you feel attracted to – you can’t help it- right?What if I said you could, over time, re-wire your … [Read more...]

Sex-Worthy or Love-Worthy 2: How to Avoid Falling Victim to Pick-Up Artist Tactics

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Julien Blanc has garnered negative media attention for his misogynistic pick-up artist techniques teaching men ‘how to’ manipulate, objectify, humiliate, emotional abuse and sexually assault women in order to get laid. He’s not alone. Many pick-up artists teach men a brand of confidence training that is opportunistic and manipulative with the goal of getting a woman to bed, not securing a relationship. Call it the game, tricks, conning, and flat out lying…. Here’s how to avoid … [Read more...]

Q&A: Is He Afraid to Commit OR ‘Just Not That Into You’?

Dear Maryjane, I am 54 and have been seeing a guy who is 57 casually for 9 months. We both are the primary caregivers for our teenage children, plus we live an hour apart, so getting together is hard. We text every day and see each other once or twice a week. We both get hurt easily and are scared of being hurt in a relationship. But he tells me that he is not in to me as much as I am into him, so he will not commit. What do I do to turn that around as he is fairly controlling? Gail Dear … [Read more...]

Q&A Why Do Men Cheat?

Q&A: Why Do Men Cheat? Dear Maryjane, Why have I always attracted Narcissist’s? Every single man I've dated has cheated or consistently flirted and ogled over other women. My husband flirts shamelessly and it embarrasses and hurts me. I also suspect he may have taken this farther and cheated as well. Why can't I be enough for a man? Thanks MaryJane Dear Shelly, Thank you for your question! First of all, you’re not alone- so many beautiful and deserving women have been horribly … [Read more...]