I love him. Is there hope for us?

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Hi Maryjane!I’m currently in a long distance relationship with a guy I’ve known half my life. He and I reconnected six months ago and immediately hit it off.However, he is currently in the final stages of a long, contested divorce, plus a young child I’ve never met. I simply adore this man; he has all the wonderful qualities I’ve been looking for in someone and vice versa but it has been gut-wrenching to see him process the pain of the divorce alone from so far away, not being able to do … [Read more...]

Q&A: My Boyfriend No Longer Cares

Angry woman

Hi, Maryjane,My name is Yen, and I am from San Jose, California. My boyfriend and I have been together close to two years. I remember at the beginning of the relationship he was so sweet, kind, and caring to me. But I notice that ever since he got a new job and has been working overtime, he hardly cares about my feelings anymore. I tried many times to tell him how I feel, but he gets angry at me, ignores my feelings, and calls me mean names, which hurts me more. I really love my boyfriend very … [Read more...]

50 Shades of Losing You In Him

Man and woman in sexual clothes

“Fifty shades of Grey” by E.L James touted as 2014 mommy porn speaks to the universal desire to surrender, let go and be lead by a powerful man. Under close scrutiny, rather than being an inspiring work of female sexual empowerment, this erotic novel is really the textbook for 50 ways to lose yourself in a man. If you find yourself falling head over heels in love to the point that you give up parts of you to feel alive, desired and loved… this blog is for you.I’ll share the missteps and … [Read more...]

Are You Too Nice? The Cost of Being Agreeable

BigHeart’s are by nature agreeable, kind, accommodating, loving, generous, optimistic, trusting and helpful. they're softhearted and prone to random acts of altruistic kindness without need for reward. All lovely and likeable qualities until... ...Conflict arises, compromise or over-giving builds up resentment, your trust is betrayed or choices need to be made that can’t please everyone. You know I love you, but too much of the ‘nice gal (or guy) behavior turns out to not be so good. … [Read more...]

The ‘Real Love’ “7 Ways to Make a Man Miss You”.


By maryjane Kapteyn There are ways to make a man miss you and they don’t involve being a doormat or a martyr and risking the loss of his affections by making yourself seems less desirable by desperately over-giving. You can make the right man miss you by being irresistibly confident, secure, worthy and sweet. Here’s how! Be Less Available. Not because you’re playing a game, not because you’re trying to make him jump through hoops and earn the privilege of being with you, but because … [Read more...]

Goddess or Doormat?


Pablo Picasso said, "There are only two types of women - goddesses and doormats." Which are you? Do you give more than you get? Do you sacrifice and accommodate to please because you fear losing your man’s love? Do you get super excited and subtly or overtly design your life around your man- becoming too available? Do you compromise your values to keep his love or put your dreams aside? Do you put his needs before your own and believe that by fulfilling him – he’ll be … [Read more...]