The Hook that Causes Nice Gals to Choose Unavailable Men

Man and woman in sexual clothes

           Have you ever wondered why you attract emotionally unavailable, flawed, needy, insecure or broken men?Being nice is the source of your attraction. The reason you behave too nice isn’t your fault. In fact, it likely feels natural to be nice, a part of your identity and personality. Same holds true for the kind of men you feel attracted to – you can’t help it- right?What if I said you could, over time, re-wire your … [Read more...]

50 Shades of a Toxic Relationship

Gorgeous blonde and handsome man

Fifty Shades of Grey hits theaters today and let’s be honest who doesn’t want to see Jamie Dornan steaming up the screen– hhhheeellllo HOT!While the idea of losing control and losing yourself in a man makes for a great fantasy – the real life version is not so hot or glamorous.In fact, it can be downright degrading, soul-sucking and damaging.I know first hand. I fell for a man who appeared to be everything I wanted and lavished me with an unreal amount of attention and affection, … [Read more...]

Q&A Why Do Men Cheat?

Q&A: Why Do Men Cheat? Dear Maryjane, Why have I always attracted Narcissist’s? Every single man I've dated has cheated or consistently flirted and ogled over other women. My husband flirts shamelessly and it embarrasses and hurts me. I also suspect he may have taken this farther and cheated as well. Why can't I be enough for a man? Thanks MaryJane Dear Shelly, Thank you for your question! First of all, you’re not alone- so many beautiful and deserving women have been horribly … [Read more...]

Is He My Guy? 5 Misleading Messages Men Send

Is he my guy- misleading message men send

Q&A – Is He My Guy? 5 Misleading Messages Men Send Dear Maryjane, I’m dating this guy; at least I think I am. He calls everyday, we hang out together alone and sometimes in a group 1-2x times a week. I am so happy with him and I can tell he has a good time. He makes me laugh and everything feels easy. After a few weeks we became intimate and I just assumed he was my boyfriend. I’ve fallen for this guy, but every so often, he makes little comments about whether I’m dating yet or how … [Read more...]

Unlucky in Love? Why You Should Keep Trying


I don’t believe luck has anything to do with finding love. Are there a few people who easily find love, with all the fixing’s? Yes, but you and I aren’t one of those people. We’re the one’s who feel unlucky in love, left out and frustrated. It seems so EASY for others and so damn hard for us. We painfully watch everyone else get fall in love and get married, wondering... ‘When will it be my turn?’ ‘Am I so unlovable?’ ‘What’s wrong with me?’ ‘Why am I still … [Read more...]

Nice Gal & The Bad Boy: Why You Get Hooked Part Two


Part Two Have you ever wasted your TIME and big heart on an unavailable man who prefers to keep things “casual” rather than create a real, lasting and loving partnership with you? The psychological appeal to the bad boy is that you never know if he likes you or if he’ll stick around. What you experience as excitement and the thrill of infatuation or romance, I call, anxiety, uncertainty and being on edge. Never knowing where you stand triggers a primal reaction to please him, give to … [Read more...]