3 Things You Must Have to Get The Man & The Money


There are two kinds of people in this world those who have it all and those who get whatever is left over. Me? I was unsure of myself, never going for the kind of guy I always wanted, until suddenly with age and more emotional wear and tear those men we no longer interested in me or available. There are two kinds of dater's in this world, the confidence, love-savvy gal who knows her worth and the overlooked or undervalued gal who feels used up. I have a beautiful, powerful and spiritual friend … [Read more...]

You’re Worth Loving!


By Maryjane KapteynMy message is strong and persistent: ‘You’re Worth Loving'.Life radically and beautifully changes when you know your worth, without it the COST is too great.If I had felt WORTHY walking into my adulthood, all the success, happiness and love I desired would not have eluded me. I would not have endured so much disappointment and pain. I would not have lost my money, my time, my well being, my health, my happiness and my self-esteem hoping a man would love me.I would not have … [Read more...]

The Hook that Causes Nice Gals to Choose Unavailable Men

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           Have you ever wondered why you attract emotionally unavailable, flawed, needy, insecure or broken men?Being nice is the source of your attraction. The reason you behave too nice isn’t your fault. In fact, it likely feels natural to be nice, a part of your identity and personality. Same holds true for the kind of men you feel attracted to – you can’t help it- right?What if I said you could, over time, re-wire your … [Read more...]

Nice Gal Beliefs That Block Love


Intellectually you know loving you is important. Like, exercise, drinking plenty of water, resting and get plenty of sleep. If it’s one of the essential things that keep you balanced, healthy and emotionally thriving, why is last the list of things to do?Here’s what may be holding you back from loving you and attracting the relationship you want.You Feel Guilty Putting You FirstYou naturally give more than you receive, so putting you first feels wrong, selfish or vain. By giving to you, you … [Read more...]

Happy 2015 Manifest Love Ritual

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Happy 2015!  I sit here filled with awe and gratitude for YOU… the TLC community that has been witness to and/or participating in the ‘No More Nice Gal’ Movement. My goal has always been to support you anyway I can.  Watching you break old patterns and find love makes me feel excited. Your joy brings me joy! Each time I work with you, whether it’s in person or virtually – I know what a gift you’re giving me. I realize that you’re allowing me to hold space for your greatness. I … [Read more...]

Q&A: Why Men Disappear

Hey Maryjane, I'm reaching out to you because there's a guy who was in my life that is constantly on my mind. We were seeing each other for an entire month and every time it was so much fun. We were always texting each other. He made me laugh and we shared many things in common. I've helped him out also. I'm extremely attracted to him and felt an amazing connection, which breaks me up inside because he is no longer there. It’s been two weeks since we’ve spoken. I called him from my home … [Read more...]

Over-Giver’s Anonymous: ‘13 WAYS TO MAKE HIM MISS YOU’ ??!!!


Browsing the world of dating advice, I bumped into an article called“7 Ways to Make Him Miss You” By Heather Jensen (a.k.a. HJ)Yet, another “full fat, full sugar taste without the calories” manufactured dating junk food – that promises to leave you satisfied with the fool-proof ways to drive him crazy, make him miss you, like you, choose you and fall in love with you... because guys are tough and confusing and trying to learn all of the different ways to ‘get love’ is so hard! But … [Read more...]

Why You Don’t Need To Love Yourself Perfectly to Find Love


Excerpts from my book: "Falling In Love With Me".   I know you know this - you've heard it a thousand times - "you need to love yourself before anyone else will love you." And this isn't entirely true. Love finds a way. Love is your constant teacher in every moment of reflection, interaction and self-action. I can count numerous instances when love showed up, even when I or another person didn't feel completely worthy, deserving, safe, trusting or open.  Thank goodness! If you wait until … [Read more...]

Elbows in! Surrender to Love

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My man is so fantastic! He is a sexy masculine man, enlightened, generous, supportive, brave, my solid rock and my soft place to land. But I wear the poor guy out. I fall into these pesky little habits (the root cause I’ll explain in a jiffy), he gives and I refuse, he proposes, I argue, he offers, I push back, I talk over him, talk too much, I stay in my head and take charge. I put my elbows OUT and self-protect. Here he is, this great guy- trustworthy in every way- he just wants to take … [Read more...]